Pardon me for being blunt, but...
I am not Rick's little helper.
I am not his assistant.
I am not a tag-along.
This is not Rick's boat, it is OUR boat.
We are ONE team.
I value Rick's skills as a shipwright.
And while I am not a shipwright...
I know how to competently use power tools, wire cables, fix the head, do brightwork, make fiberglass repairs, and troubleshoot through a problem. I can change the oil, check the impeller, and do basic maintenance on our engine. I know how to navigate, change sails, set and adjust the windvane, anchor, and use the radio (properly). And yes, I can bake too.
I can understand complex concepts given half a chance.
Again, Rick and I are a team.
I teach him what I know.
We both do a lot of research.
Sometimes I find a solution before he does.
And guess what? He likes it.
My partner digs a woman who isn't afraid to try new things and work alongside him.
My partner takes the time to teach me new things.
My partner enjoys exchanging ideas.
My partner values my opinion.
My partner discusses projects with me.
Together, my partner and I cook, clean, sew, and maintain Nyon.
When I ask you a question, don't brush me off so you can talk to the "man".
When I tell you that Rick and I work as a team, don't patronize me.
When I partake in a discussion, look at me. Not just Rick. I might know something you don't.
I realize that some comments are well meant, but...
Your old fashioned attitude still pisses me off.
By the way, living on a boat and voyaging? My idea.
Now, where did I put my palm sander...
*Pink and Blue Jobs - An expression in the boating community to delineate between what are traditionally considered to be female and male jobs. For example, a pink job would be cooking or cleaning. A blue job would include working on the engine. While it is entirely up to each boat crew how they divide up chores, and sometimes it may just happen to fall along more traditional lines, I resent the expression. It perpetuates attitudes that belong in the '50's. Del Viento's Michael wrote an interesting blog post about this. Click here to read it. For a great female perspective, read Livia's Burly Girlies.
I just had to get this off my chest after one too many frustrating incidents. Thanks for reading.